Being A Nice Friend Really Sucks Sometimes...

Okay, so, everyone who knows me well knows that I am into a lot of different things and hobbies and what not. Everyone who is my friend also knows that I am a very caring person who is there for them anytime.

Most of the time, it is a good thing, but then there are other times when I feel frustrated like I do right now.

I just feel that sometimes, my friends care more about what they want to do than taking turns and asking what someone else wants to do, including me. I feel so frustrated when my friends won't go do something with me because it may not be their cup of tea, but then I go along with them no matter how much I don't like something. I get so fed up with never getting to do something that I would like to do when I feel like all I ever do is support my friends and do the things that they want to do.

For instance, Angie and I were in a curling league for a while. Not the most exciting sport, I will admit, but it is different and fun, if you give it a chance and go and learn for a couple of hours. The sessions lasted for two hours. We were always inviting friends to go and check it out with us, and not one single person came with us. We did it for a year and every single week, we invited our friends to come and try it with us. It never happened.

However, I turn around, and I go out to places that we go to every weekend time and time again. I watch movies that I hate or have seen a million times because that is what our friends want to do. I do a whole bunch of other things for them that I may not want to do, watch, or listen to, yet, I never feel like they give one care about me. A lot of things that I do and love, I want to share with my friends, and I don't feel that I am given an opprotunity to because they don't care enough to support me in something for two hours here, or an afternoon there.

Another example. I don't like the video game Halo at all, However, I love to spend time with my two brother in laws, and our two friends, Joe and Jake. Yesterday, we spent eight hours playing Halo, and when I asked if we could play one of my multi-player games for a few minutes, they said no, and then they proceeded to be jerks and tell me that if I wasn't having fun with them that I could leave, and I totally felt like I was back in second grade again.

People can be so freaking selfish sometimes, and it really hurts. I don't expect to do everything that I want to do all of the time.

Oh, and that is the other thing, I have friends that will not go with me to do things because they don't want to, but then call up all of our other friends and talk them into not going with me, so I end up doing a lot of things by myself anyways.

I just think that if you have friends, that you should cherish them and respect them, and that everyone should give their friends a chance to choose an activity because they love it and want to share it, or at least have a fun experience by doing it with their close friends.

Like I said, I never expect to have my way a lot of the time, but once in a freakin' while, I would really like to play one of my video games, or go play one of my sports, or hike where I like to hike, or eat where I like to eat.

Anyways, I just wanted to get that off of my chest. Please, next time you want to do soemthing with your friends, ask them what they want to do, and if it is something that you may not want to do, be kind and loving enough to support them anyways. You never know, you just might have a great time anyways.